EQ低

不記得有沒有做過計算自己EQ(Emotional Quotient)的測驗, 但自己認為EQ都頗低. 近來越來越多朋友在言談間都會批評他人的EQ, 甚或他們自己的EQ. 那天與好友們(七友)傾談, 其中一個問: "你EQ是否較低?" 我的回應是: "我想是吧."

那麼, EQ低有什麼壞處呢? 在網上找到一些資料, 我想是一些學者的分析吧:

* 難有個人成就
* 失去個人風格/性格
* 壓力大
* 人們吝惜不給予EQ業者應得的功勞/苦勞
* 身份認同問題 (Company Men)
* 長期以真我和工作中的我並存, 產生厭倦之感及壓力
* 長期公私分明, 使人麻木

看來百害而無一利! 看到有關EQ的詳盡資料, 頭也大了! 有興趣的可以自己細閱, 我不打算作深入研究.

簡略看過發現, EQ和性格有密切關係, 既然如此, 我想都不能有太大改變, 江山易改本性難移嘛. 只知道自己的工作是屬於"EQ行業", 但我的崗位又有點偏向"非EQ行業".

若想更深入認識專業的分析, 可看Institute for Health and Human Potential的網頁, 當中也有計算EQ的測驗.

Blogthings也有輕鬆版可以玩玩... 我剛做完這個有30條題目的測驗, 得120分:
111-130: You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt.
噢, 相比最高的150或以上的, 我都不算差吧, 我是很誠實的答啊! :)

如果你的EQ比較高, 你則享有這些好處:

* 較多姿多釆
* 有權力慾念可以滿足
* 輸出服務時可以幫助他人
* 穩定的的營生: 某些EQ行業可致富創財, 即有人便產生機會令生活及情緒較穩定
* 涵蓋道德

* 後記: 數天後我再登入IHHP的網頁, 原來它的EQ測驗只有12條問題, 不過很難客觀答題, 我得到47分, 結果是十分高...(都唔知係唔係...)
Congratulations! You have very high emotional intelligence. This is good news! EQ counts for twice as much as IQ and technical skills combined in determining who will be a star performer. Your level of EQ likely has been and will be a driver of your high performance for years to come.

Areas to work on: While you are doing well - don't forget to take time out of your busy day-to-day activities to stop and reflect on what brings you the greatest meaning in your life. If we fail to do this on a regular basis, we risk becoming tranquilized by the trivial. Sedated by the small details. Yes, deadlines need meeting and goals must be achieved. But if we are working toward goals that are not in alignment with our key values and greater purpose, we face becoming hostile and cynical - losing the reason we are doing 'all of this' in this first place! This translates into less joy and enthusiasm for our work - resulting in a diminished ability to be effective, at ease, and on purpose.

As William James said: I have no doubt whatever that most people live, whether physically, intellectually, or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of their possible consciousness... much like a man who, out of his whole body organism, should get into the habit of using and moving only his little finger... We all have reservoirs of life to draw upon, of which we do not dream.

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