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"When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical." ~ anonymous
"We judge others by their behavior. We judge ourselves by our intentions." ~ Ian Percy
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曾玩過一心理遊戲之類的東西, 答案是我總覺得自己不屬於任何一個地方, 包括圈子. 近日的感覺就是這樣. 好像自己在任何地方空間都找不到歸屬感. 進入迷失時段.
9 comments:
Like you, I don't find myself belonging to anywhere at any given time. This is actually quite sad!!
Quote from F. Scott Fitzgerald's 《The Great Gatsby》~ “Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone, just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.”
圈子有時會令人迷失自我兼隨波逐流~我不喜歡圈子, 因為我時刻在改變。
anon: hmm, maybe everyone feels this kind of lost once in a while. not too sad, just lost.
rachel: thanks for the quote, but not this one.
karelian: 唔, 有時唔係只係圈子, 而係覺得好似樣樣/邊度都唔多關自己事咁.
How we criticize others and what we say about others is more of a reflection of our own personal views, insights, and unfortunately, also our ignorances, prejudices, and biases. I see the source of those weakness and short comings every time I look at a mirror.
kempton: true, and it's unfair to be judged but we can't do anything.
2 points.
specificity. "論斷人". we must not confuse commenting/judging on a person him/herself, with commenting/judging on a person's particular act of behaviour or views/opinions. i'm fine with the latter. but i've seen too many cases where people confuse the 2 and take things amiss personally. the specificity requirement is on both the one who comment/judge and the subject.
we certainly cannot judge a person on the whole because we will never have complete knowledge of him/her. even if we are talking about a particular aspect of a person, the relative position between the one who comment/judge and the subject is the most critical factor determining whether the act of comment/judgment is just.
PK_: thanks. i understand, but well sometimes ppl just don't care, they judge from what they heard or overheard, w/o knowing much abt the whole picture.
maybe we can see comment/judgment as views/opinions, as they actually are by nature.
then there are always good/bad views/opinions.
it could be as simple as that. the best response could be just a laugh.
take it easy.
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